Hey, Babes! Welcome back to our Guest Posts Series. and thank again to Melisa for this amazing guest post. She will share with us about “Self-guided tour as relationships check”.
Guest Travel Writer: Melisa Marzett
About the author: Melisa Marzett has always loved traveling. Back in the days when she was single, she was traveling on her own so, she knows what it is like to be in relationships and that it is useful to make self-guided tours for a fact. Being a freelancer, she works for http://essay-editor.net/ , which makes it to where she can travel as much as she wants and write as much as she feels likes and she feels like writing every day.
There is a famous saying: “Young people, before going to the registry office, put up wallpaper together”. The same can be said about self-guided tours. Do you want to check your relationship? Make a few days self-guided tour to an unknown country.
It is one thing if you buy a ticket from a travel company, come to an unknown country, where a guide meets you at the airport, and the hotel is all-inclusive. And a completely different thing when you two find yourself in extreme conditions in a foreign country. Believe that these are ideal conditions for checking the possibility of further cohabitation.
The fact that self-guided tours are of an extreme shade is a fact. By definition, you will immediately find yourself in a stressful situation, because not everything around you is familiar. It is good if you speak the language of the country where you went to rest fluently. And if you still do not know a foreign language, then adrenaline will definitely go off-scale, and true relationships will manifest themselves very quickly.
To get from the airport to the hotel, check in, deal with the subtleties of public transport, navigate the subway or just on the ground on the map – all this causes a lot of emotions and various reactions. If after such a joint trip you will still love each other, then you can safely start a family – you will be able to withstand all the other difficulties of family life.
Why does travel become a catalyst for true relationships?
Because at every step there is a check for mutual understanding and feeling of each other. Although we traveled more than twenty countries, we sometimes have small moments of mutual misunderstanding.
One of us orienting ourselves faster on the ground, and the second one continues to “blunt”. One wants coffee and the other urgently needed the toilet. And on the ground, we are differently oriented, and each card reads in its own way. In addition, the terrain and surroundings are not familiar, and you need to navigate quickly, it is important to feel each other’s mood. One need to be especially attentive to the feelings of another person at the end of the day.
For example, you walked around the city all day long, you were very tired, hungry, and at that moment … got lost and went off to the opposite side of the metro or bus. At such moments comes the full understanding that Maslow, with his famous pyramid of needs, was right. When you need to satisfy the lowest needs for food, water and sleep, and you are tired and the body needs rest, the sublime feelings of romance and love fade into the background.
It is at these moments that the quality of the relationship is being checked. It is important to remember in the most difficult moments for yourself about the feelings of the other. It is very difficult. However, at the same time, if such checks are carried out successfully, additional mutual respect and feeling appears, not just of love, but also of reverence.
Do you have doubt about feelings of each other? Go for a week on a self-guided tour to one of the unknown countries. You will definitely return from this trip being another person. Nevertheless, it is worth remembering that you will never be the same. Traveling, like big money, does not change a person; they simply reinforce what is inside.
Really Thank Melisa for the beautiful guest post.